Link #important #reminder #and you smack their hand away #it is not abuse #but if you hit hard you should apologize #and either way you explain why #also look up how to give genuine apologies #is also a form of emotional abuse #i apologized why cant you let it go #because apologies dont end with im sorry #and a genuine attempt at being betternot repeating behavior #will that behavior happen again sometimes #all the above is in general tbh not just with parents #let the apology fit the size of the action #this got long #its 4 am and i have a lot of thoughts on stuff like this